HOLDING THE LIGHT

MYTH - TWIN-FLAMES HAVE NO MORE WORK TO DO ON THEMSELVES THEY ARE PERFECTED AND WHOLE WITHIN THEMSELVES BY THE TIME THEY MEET - WRONG!

Through my counselling of Twin-flames  I have got to know that not all couples express their love to the same extent or expression from Day one. In fact alot of the time...one twin flame chooses to hold the light for the other Twin flame, and it can take many years for the relationship to become a true balance and equilibrium. Often there is a problem of give and take...where one partner seems highly self-activated with  a very accentuated ego drive...desiring prestige, money and to be highly regarded by their peers, they may seem highly social, but then cold and aloof and not quite at ease within their emotional body and almost feel threatened by a loss of control over their lives - which the loving partner represents - THEY FEAR INTIMACY.

 Loving someone unconditionally may seem like weakness and the thought of losing their individuality scares them, and they may feel that the only way to try to keep the balance in their partnership is to antagonise the loving and giving partner so that they become angry and lose their own centre, to weaken them.  They do this instinctively, because they know that their twin-flame is holding back, they are not being who they truly are they are only allowing their partner to see their evolved and high minded tolerant behaviour, but the other side exists...we all have a shadow and no matter how good, pure and loving  an image we project - EVERYONE HAS A SHADOW.  And so these two must integrate their imbalances by interacting with each other. With Twin-flames this is assured you won't get far without interaction...this will feel like stars colliding or a nuclear explosion within your emotional body...but know this - you are two halves of the same soul...you will always find a way forward in love...even if it doesn't happen in this lifetime.

We can see this dance and interplay...and already it seems like the Twin who is expressing the masculine more - is in the wrong..They seem to be the one who has a problem with Love, however the masculine side is intricately made up by the role their father played in their upbringing. So to get to balance the other Twin flame will mirror the mother energy back to them. Then, there will be a certain amount of role playing and discomfort as they try recreate a situation that is now outworn and not the new paradigm by which the new people of Earth can live. Old cultural beliefs of woman and their roles in society need to be revised. Women need to look at their male counterpart in a new light too...They will find their own way...there is no set pattern.  Men and Women are equal and they are both needed equally for the survival of the species.

The mothering and more feminine of the twins has their own set of problems too,  loving and giving...they are expressing the love of Christ consciousness... they are almost being saintly in their ability to love in the direst of circumstances. If this is you then ask yourself a question, are you holding the light for your Twin-flame genuinely or are you scared of putting boundaries in place and saying no.
When we hold the light for our Twin-flame it is better to do this alone, but avail yourself with much knowledge on self activation and take time to cleanse your psyche for all martyr type behaviour.

Take advice from genuine Twin-flames:

 DO NOT OPEN UP YOUR PROBLEMS TO ALL THOSE AROUND YOU...They do not understand Twin-Flame love. They will make judgement and they will assume that this relationship will run in the same way that soulmate or karmic everyday relationships do. Twin-flames will be forgiving and loving to each other long past the time that others decided what the best outcome could be for you both.  Unusual circumstances and painful situations are usually surrounding this pair, it is for Ego-processing and refining and self actualisation purposes. We need adversity sometimes so that we can struggle to make the best of things...so that we can show humanity how to love under the direst of circumstances. Your unique story can inspire and uplift others. Twin-flames are way-showers and elders of humanity but each step must be taken in respect and thought...As others will try to copy and replicate...they will wish to have this kind of relationship also. Which they will as all human beings have a Twin-flame, they may or may not be ready for that journey... God will decide.

Much love sally x