HOLDING THE LIGHT

MYTH - TWIN-FLAMES HAVE NO MORE WORK TO DO ON THEMSELVES THEY ARE PERFECTED AND WHOLE WITHIN THEMSELVES BY THE TIME THEY MEET - WRONG!

Through my counselling of Twin-flames  I have got to know that not all couples express their love to the same extent or expression from Day one. In fact alot of the time...one twin flame chooses to hold the light for the other Twin flame, and it can take many years for the relationship to become a true balance and equilibrium. Often there is a problem of give and take...where one partner seems highly self-activated with  a very accentuated ego drive...desiring prestige, money and to be highly regarded by their peers, they may seem highly social, but then cold and aloof and not quite at ease within their emotional body and almost feel threatened by a loss of control over their lives - which the loving partner represents - THEY FEAR INTIMACY.

 Loving someone unconditionally may seem like weakness and the thought of losing their individuality scares them, and they may feel that the only way to try to keep the balance in their partnership is to antagonise the loving and giving partner so that they become angry and lose their own centre, to weaken them.  They do this instinctively, because they know that their twin-flame is holding back, they are not being who they truly are they are only allowing their partner to see their evolved and high minded tolerant behaviour, but the other side exists...we all have a shadow and no matter how good, pure and loving  an image we project - EVERYONE HAS A SHADOW.  And so these two must integrate their imbalances by interacting with each other. With Twin-flames this is assured you won't get far without interaction...this will feel like stars colliding or a nuclear explosion within your emotional body...but know this - you are two halves of the same soul...you will always find a way forward in love...even if it doesn't happen in this lifetime.

We can see this dance and interplay...and already it seems like the Twin who is expressing the masculine more - is in the wrong..They seem to be the one who has a problem with Love, however the masculine side is intricately made up by the role their father played in their upbringing. So to get to balance the other Twin flame will mirror the mother energy back to them. Then, there will be a certain amount of role playing and discomfort as they try recreate a situation that is now outworn and not the new paradigm by which the new people of Earth can live. Old cultural beliefs of woman and their roles in society need to be revised. Women need to look at their male counterpart in a new light too...They will find their own way...there is no set pattern.  Men and Women are equal and they are both needed equally for the survival of the species.

The mothering and more feminine of the twins has their own set of problems too,  loving and giving...they are expressing the love of Christ consciousness... they are almost being saintly in their ability to love in the direst of circumstances. If this is you then ask yourself a question, are you holding the light for your Twin-flame genuinely or are you scared of putting boundaries in place and saying no.
When we hold the light for our Twin-flame it is better to do this alone, but avail yourself with much knowledge on self activation and take time to cleanse your psyche for all martyr type behaviour.

Take advice from genuine Twin-flames:

 DO NOT OPEN UP YOUR PROBLEMS TO ALL THOSE AROUND YOU...They do not understand Twin-Flame love. They will make judgement and they will assume that this relationship will run in the same way that soulmate or karmic everyday relationships do. Twin-flames will be forgiving and loving to each other long past the time that others decided what the best outcome could be for you both.  Unusual circumstances and painful situations are usually surrounding this pair, it is for Ego-processing and refining and self actualisation purposes. We need adversity sometimes so that we can struggle to make the best of things...so that we can show humanity how to love under the direst of circumstances. Your unique story can inspire and uplift others. Twin-flames are way-showers and elders of humanity but each step must be taken in respect and thought...As others will try to copy and replicate...they will wish to have this kind of relationship also. Which they will as all human beings have a Twin-flame, they may or may not be ready for that journey... God will decide.

Much love sally x

RELATING NOT RELATIONSHIP -OSHO

The Honeymoon that Never Ends
by Osho

LOVE IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP. Love relates, but it is not a relationship. A relationship is something finished. A relationship is a noun; the full stop has come, the honeymoon is over. Now there is no joy, no enthusiasm, now all is finished. You can carry it on, just to keep your promises. You can carry it on because it is comfortable, convenient, cozy. You can carry it on because there is nothing else to do. You can carry it on because if you disrupt it, it is going to create much trouble for you… Relationship means something complete, finished, closed.

Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues– it is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun.

And why do we reduce the beauty of relating to relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? Because to relate is insecure, and relationship is a security. Relationship has a certainty; relating is just a meeting of two strangers, maybe just an overnight stay and in the morning we say goodbye. Who knows what is going to happen tomorrow? And we are so afraid that we want to make it certain, we want to make it predictable. We would like tomorrow to be according to our ideas; we don't allow it freedom to have its own say. So we immediately reduce every verb to a noun.

You are in love with a woman or a man and immediately you start thinking of getting married. Make it a legal contract. Why? How does the law come into love? The law comes into love because love is not there. It is only a fantasy, and you know the fantasy will disappear. Before it disappears settle down, before it disappears do something so it becomes impossible to separate.

In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment spread over the earth, people will love, love immensely, but their love will remain a relating not a relationship. And I am not saying that their love will be only momentary. There is every possibility their love may go deeper than your love, may have a higher quality of intimacy, may have something more of poetry and more of godliness in it. And there is every possibility their love may last longer than your so-called relationship ever lasts. But it will not be guaranteed by the law, by the court, by the policeman. The guarantee will be inner. It will be a commitment from the heart, it will be a silent communion.

If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more. And there are a few flowers of love which bloom only after long intimacies. There are seasonal flowers too; within six weeks they are there, in the sun, but within six weeks again they are gone forever. There are flowers that take years to come, and there are flowers that take many years to come. The longer it takes, the deeper it goes. But it has to be a commitment from one heart to another heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment; eye to eye, heart to heart, being to being. It has to be understood, not said.

Forget relationships and learn how to relate.

Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted– that's what destroys all love affairs. The woman thinks she knows the man, the man thinks he knows the woman. Nobody knows either! It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery. And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful.

To think that you know your wife is very, very ungrateful. How can you know the woman? How can you know the man? They are processes, they are not things. The woman that you knew yesterday is not there today. So much water has gone down the Ganges; she is somebody else, totally different. Relate again, start again, don't take it for granted.

And the man that you slept with last night, look at his face again in the morning. He is no more the same person, so much has changed. So much, incalculably much has changed. That is the difference between a thing and a person. The furniture in the room is the same, but the man and the woman, they are no more the same. Explore again, start again. That's what I mean by relating.

Relating means you are always starting, you are continuously trying to become acquainted. Again and again, you are introducing yourself to each other. You are trying to see the many facets of the other's personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm of inner feelings, into the deep recesses of his being. You are trying to unravel a mystery which cannot be unraveled. That is the joy of love: the exploration of consciousness.

And if you relate, and don't reduce it to a relationship, then the other will become a mirror to you. Exploring him, unawares you will be exploring yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and then love becomes a meditation. Relationship is ugly, relating is beautiful.

Hence I say relate. By saying relate, I mean remain continuously on a honeymoon. Go on searching and seeking each other, finding new ways of loving each other, finding new ways of being with each other. And each person is such an infinite mystery, inexhaustible, unfathomable, that it is not possible that you can ever say, "I have known her," or, "I have known him." At the most you can say, "I have tried my best, but the mystery remains a mystery."

In fact the more you know, the more mysterious the other becomes. Then love is a constant adventure.

This article originally appeared in Creations, Feb./March 2002, and was reprinted with permission from Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: A New Vision of Relating, from St. Martin’s Press,2001.

TWINFLAME - Understanding & forgiveness

Finding your spiritual Twin is not like finding any other soul mate. There might, indeed, be many soul-mates: others who have elected to walk a particular path with you in this lifetime. Friends, lovers, siblings, and offspring, or even work colleagues who have chosen to learn a particular lesson with you, teach you some new thing, or meet with you in this lifetime in order to perform a particular service to humanity. Most of these will have shared other lives with you and will, therefore, feel familiar and comfortable to you.

When you meet your twin, however, you will feel a strong and dynamic pull to be together. There will be an electrical quality to your encounters, a deep empathy and a feeling of recognition or of coming home, a feeling that you speak the same language. Most of all, as a result of the dramatic leaps in consciousness usually necessary for twin flames to become harmonised with each other, a typical meeting between them will include the mysterious quality of “setting each other off” in any way which is necessary for both to reach this much-desired state of harmony. They will, even unconsciously, serve as a catalyst for change within each other. This change will always bring each one closer to recognising who they truly are and assist them both in understanding and fulfilling their purpose in this lifetime.

If, when you meet this person, they are too deeply wounded to be able to fully love you, you will become a catalyst for their greatest healing. If they are already otherwise occupied in relationship with another, this might cause some pain at the level of the emotions but there will also be an automatic understanding at the level of the soul, that this is what they have chosen and that it will do no party any good for you to wish it otherwise. The love between twin flames is unconditional, as each soul recognises easily within the other, the unity and the eternal nature of all things and all beings. This is why twin flame meetings offer such a rare opportunity for becoming more loving and for such deep, spiritual understanding and awakening. Some of the conditions twin flames have had to endure at times, require that one or both of them must become almost saintly and this is sometimes, absolutely the point... :-)



much love Sally x

Signs that you have found your Twinflame

An An overwhelming sense of love and attraction.

A sense of completion that goes beyond words.

A magnetism to the other stronger than anything you have ever experienced.

You will complement one another.

The ability to literally feel one another whether you are with or without your partner.

A feeling that you are so close you just might be related - like a brother or a sister.

A complete and total breakdown of your lives as you knew them upon finding one another.

The power to touch the other without physical means from great distances.

Over the course of your life you may have dreams of a "mystery man/woman." 

Synchronicities will be abundant. You may find yourselves calling, emailing and texting one another at the exact same time. You may also find yourselves buying each other the same gifts.

You may feel your heart wanting to jump out of your chest at the sound of his/hers voice.

The ability to feel each others emotions, whether they be happy or sad ones, from great distances.

The desire to be with one another no matter what the obstacle blocking your way.

The ability to dream of your partner in their current state and verify the accuracy of that dream, later.

You may notice the ability to collapse time as you knew it. Upon your coming together, time itself will cease to exist. 

When you and your partner are out and about, you may notice the eyes of everyone are upon you. Your love for one another will be so great that it is not uncommon for the eyes of everyone to be upon the two of you.

You may find yourselves completing each others sentences, sometimes even before you have the chance to begin them.

Upon connecting with your twin flame/soulmate, you may find that you are practically mirror images of one another and that you may want to even run from your partner because of the things you see in yourself from the reflection of his/her eyes.

If you currently live apart, (even at great distances) you may notice the power to be sexually intimate  without ever even physically touching the other. 

You may notice that any of your bad habits, ie. smoking, drinking, or whatever they be, will adversely effect you. Even in your diet, food that you used to be able to eat, will have to be set aside. 

You may find that certain dates in your lives, ie. birthdays or the even the day you met, will fit perfectly into the Fibonacci Sequence or the number 11 11.

A realization that this isn't the first time the two of you have met. Past life experiences.

TWIN-FLAME'S

            I have started this blog to assist any Twin-flame that is in need of direction. I can share key knowledge and in-depth information to allow greater understanding of your own situation. The Twin-flame relationship...is the hardest but most rewarding of all relationships.  It is usually withheld from you until you have a proficient amount of light and love in your heart for yourself and others - then the relationship will be brought forward to distil, purify and decant you into a new way of being - living with Christ consciousness and moving towards God consciousness.  It can make you trawl the depths of your own personal issues, it will bring up fears, insecurities and all unspoken but deeply stored pain you have held onto for lifetimes. It will always show the way to unlocking your psyche ...unravelling your knotted emotions and any difficult past experience on your path to bring you to self-healing and wholeness.


           Your partner is your mirror, your best friend, your intimate companion and divine compliment...they have the key to your own toolbox- as you do for them too - not the tools...nor the instruction manual. You hold them within yourself. Your partner holds the key - BUT YOU ULTIMATELY ALWAYS DO THE WORK.


            This relationship will fill you with joy and you will laugh until you cry. But when you cry tears of sorrow, that stem from expectation - you will cry until there seems like there is nothing left to give. You will work through the drama of your SELF until there is no more false hope and patterned expectation thrust on you by family or cultural observations. You will stand naked in the light of your own truth and laugh as you feel your connectedness with ALL THAT IS. That is when you know that you have come home to yourself.  When you finally enter the door of your own heart....You will realise that God was waiting there for you to join him - all along. From this blessed time onwards life starts to get interesting...and rewarding as you step forward joyfully to spread the good news in action....word and deed...hopefully with your Twin-flames hand in yours.  There is no need to rush, there is no need to speed up time....everything is synchronised to divine timing. 


            YOUR PEACEFUL HEART WILL BE IN ALIGNMENT WITH ALL - THERE IS NO SEPARATION - THAT IS ILLUSION.


much love Sally x